Making Friends And Building Relationships

These points are key, in building relationships. I was a talker while growing up.  Shy did not even exist with my personality. What I did find out though, is to listen more when you are communicating with friends, leads, family, and whoever else you are building relationships with. If we are willing and able to listen to others, we will find it much appreciated by whoever we may be talking with. Some people are not aware of how much they are controlling the conversation. I think if you want to always talk about yourself, you can go to a psychologist and buy a few sessions with them.

Try to avoid that high school gossip too. Obviously this does not always pertain when talking to leads from your business, but any of your friends or family members, my opinion, do not want to always hear you talking bad about others or running others into the ground. The people you are talking to will start picturing you differently. Look…. I’m not telling you how to communicate with people, but what I am doing is giving you tips on things that I have learned along the way.

Another tip is if you think a friend has a bad idea or something you do not think will work, don’t always argue with them about it. just keep silent and let them work things out for themselves. Another reason not to do this is because you could feel responsible for their actions. You can offer support to friends, but you can’t create the rest of their lives for them. Your opinion is okay to give, but I would try to avoid a lot of conflict in any topic that comes up. Arguing is one thing, but trying to knock down someones idea or dream, could change the whole way that person thinks, and lives. People are looking for answers, and you might give them the feedback the needed to give up on their journey.

Don’t take yourself so serious.  Laugh more at yourself and be self-deprecating. This does not mean we have to embarrass ourselves, it just means we can get rid of our ego for a little while and open up more, smile and laugh. Humor is often the best ingredient for relieving stress or any type of uncomfortable, awkward, or stressful situation. Don’t you find when you are having fun and laughing, that everything is okay?  I know I do, and you will find me smiling and laughing a lot as I go through my life, because that is something I love to have as a part of my personality. I’m not saying I cannot be serious, but I know having fun is a part of being successful.

Learn how to forgive people. This is a big one in my eyes. I do not mean forgive every little thing people do wrong, because that will make them think they can get away with anything. I mean, sincerely think about if you are going to forgive them, and try to do it quicker than usual. If you are going to do it anyways, why make them suffer for a long time? it’s a powerful and important factor in maintaining healthy relationships. However, real forgiveness also means that we are willing to forget the experience. If we forgive one day, but then a few weeks later bring up that thing they did wrong, because this means you did not really forgive them. When we make mistakes, just consider how much we would appreciate others to forgive and completely forget after they forgive. That is important.. the forgetting.

Ray MacDonald

Don’t Let Negative People Bring You Down

Hello again!!  I want to apologize for my lack of blogging. My partners and I are on the next venture, and we are short on time.  I did have a very valuable tip for everyone today.  You know, I have learned over the years not to listen to anyone that is negative minded.  This means more then you think it does. For example, when you wake up and you are in a good mood, when you leave your house,  odds are you will be in contact with many people that day.  Whether it be the phone,  gas stations, family, friends,  and so on.  It is okay to talk to people that are negative while you are going on with your day, but it is very IMPORTANT that you do not let there negativity influence your mindset, or you actions.  Maybe they are having a bad day,  maybe they lost there job,  maybe they are just that annoying person that is never happy.  I’m just saying,  some people have good reasons to be in a bad mood,  and that’s okay.  I just mean keep your good attitude,  and move on after you have talked to them or brushed past them.  Stay in your good feeling mood.  That is sometimes what life is all about.  Feeling good.

Another reason you should avoid negativity is if you have a goal or a dream that you want to pursue,  and you are surrounded by negative people,  what do you think that will do for your confidence level.  I can’t even remember how many times I have heard,” Oh that’s a stupid idea”, ” Oh that will never work.”  Along with some others I would rather not post on my blog.      You get the idea though.  You will find if you do not tune these negative remarks out, then you might start believing them..  When that happens, you will lose self confidence.  When you lose that, it might cost you your dream!!  Just try to be in a good mood as much as you can,  and think happy, positive thoughts in your day.  You can do whatever you put your mind to,  and nobody can tell you otherwise.  Happy to be with you on my blog,  and feel free to post more comments anytime.

Ray  MacDonald